Reflections, thinking small to make big changes.

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Reflection is a great tool for self-improvement in my humble opinion. We are all guilty of pointing fingers and complaining about what is wrong in the world when in most cases the things we complain about we do have the ability to change because quite often we are usually guilty of what we are vocalizing, ourselves.

It is easy to point out what is not working, but implementing change is not always as easy as it seems. I have said this before and will reiterate it here, our brains function on habitual routines. The best way to seek change is to set up a regular routine and before long it becomes a habit that is as natural as breathing. It is that simple but, we have to start somewhere. The hard part is creating the change before it becomes a habit.

If we are honest with ourselves we can hold a mirror up and ask truthfully is this annoyance caused by me? Reflection is a tricky thing. If someone hurts us or we feel slighted, are you reflecting what someone did to you on the wrong person? If a repeated action of deceit affects us in our lives it is easy to fall in that pattern and automatically assume everyone is going to do the same thing, before anything is done at all. Often times we, in fact, enforce the behavior by our attitude towards the innocent party, creating their defenses to react to your behavior. That person becomes the victim of your own reflection.

We can also be the culprit of the things that annoy us the most, we see it easily because maybe we do it as well? It is not easy to be fully honest with yourself, no one likes to admit their own failures. However, it seems failures are the stepping stones to success. Trial and error is the process to finding the best fit, should we say? You cannot fix something if you do not understand what is broken. An analysis of truth must be reflected in the mirror, then change what you do not like about yourself to create a better you. Then others see and react and follow suit; you created the cycle for a positive change.

May seem confusing but it is human nature and no one is immune. However, we can use it to our advantage in a complementary way instead of negatively. Being the control freak that I am, I understand that we can not control the actions of others, but we can control how we react to them. Change starts with the individual, be the change you want to see and lead by example.

One voice can make a difference and soon habits start to form and changes trickle down to

more and more people before you know it, you are a cause of a movement. It all started with a habit you formed in combating something you did not like about yourself. Make that movement count, put more favorable energy out and we get it back 10 times fold. As easy as it is to argue with someone and demand them to think like you do, that can be replaced with an eager ear, waiting to listen, or a helping hand looking to help someone in need, or a simple handshake and smile, can create an entirely new outlook that is rewarding on so many levels.

I believe! All we can do is try, right? What is the worst that can happen? But the best case scenario is a better world for future generations. Changes happen globally when we start locally!

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Monkey Wrench, Anyone?

Funny how life keeps going no matter what, you know when people say, don't feel so bad, no matter how bad things are there is always someone who has it worse. Ever feel like you were that person who had it worse?

God, life is a funny little cycle and time stops for no one, does it? We do our best and make our plans and strive to reach our goals, but some days no matter how you try, there is a monkey wrench and it is jammed right in the middle of everything causing all your hard work to fall apart.

Life is balance and 9 times out of 10 so rarely does any of us actually have the balance we need in order to survive these bumps. We go day to day with our routines thinking there is an end in sight and when that end comes and it is never what we had planned; it makes us feel like we did something wrong.

But guess what, your not alone and you did nothing wrong. Its called life. We can plan as much as we want and be prepared, but no amount of strength or preparation will ever make the bumps any smoother. Some things do not have visible answers, hell, some things have no answer at all. It simply is what it is, good, bad or indifferent. At the end of our life when we have to answer to our maker, I imagine that is when all the mysteries will be revealed. But, who knows? As I have planned this day to come I also think, it most likely will never be like I imagined.

Call it a mid life crisis or a bout of depression or maybe things are right on track for you at the moment. Regardless the state you are in nothing is permanent and nothing lasts forever. When the tide rolls in and we are treading water and struggling to breathe; we have to tell ourselves this too will pass. When we are on top of the world and everything falls right into place, enjoy it while you can, because it will eventually fade as well.

To live with the philosophy that nothing is permanent some find to be grim and bleak. But I find it to be my comfort when I feel like the world is focused on killing my spirit. There is nothing, absolutely nothing that lasts forever. But maybe that belief  is not the complete truth either?   

Humans are riddled with flaws and imperfections, but it is also our nature to nurture and build bonds that cannot be broken by these cycles of hard times. I used to live my life by the philosophy that nothing is permanent, but here I am learning yet again. There is one thing that is constant, there is a monkey wrench that messes with my program of belief.

When I look back on my life and all the hard times I have been through it is true with time the sorrow did pass and the monkey wrench that broke the cycle of sadness was always love. When things were great those good times were always shared with those closes to me and their pride for me was shown through their love. When we lose someone close to us, the love never dies, in fact, it is felt even stronger with their passing.

When it is real and comes from a true place love is the one thing, the only thing, that lasts forever, no matter the circumstances.